Tales from College: Episode 2

Tales From College: How I Got Real Friends 

By Inaya Syed

Hey everybody! How are you doing today? Today, I want to talk to you about a topic that is important to many people: Friends. 

As someone who grew up shy by nature, making friends was always hard for me. I thought I had friends up until high school. However, we broke apart from the reason that we were not really close. I allowed myself to be vulnerable with them, but they did not really reciprocate that. Everything changed when I arrived at New York Tech.

For one, my older sister got married and moved out of the house. Exciting times. Hidaya left for her own college upstate. I never felt so alone and desperate for friends. It did not help when a girl I thought I could be friends with, ended up excluding me from the group (This was before I changed my major to Mechanical Engineering). 

After first semester, I was left untrusting and very cautious. I did not want to be burned again by the fires of friendship rejection. That's when a very nice and pretty girl came up to me in the Machine Shop. "Hi, I always see you working here, but I don't know your name." I was taken aback. How could someone take an interest in... Me? 

"I'm Inaya." I replied. "Inaya? Hi, my name is Brianna." the girl introduced herself. From Bri, I was introduced to many members of the ASME chapter of NYIT. She was the main reason I did anything. 

Mayfest, a festival to celebrate the ending of the school year, rolled around, and another girl named Skylynn invites me. I get ready, even though I had no classes that day. I was having fun, getting ice cream from the long line in front of the ice cream truck. Suddenly, something hits my face. I looked sad, and I was. I felt isolated and very uncomfortable. I started to cry in front of Skylynn and other members. They comforted me.

After I cried, I started to explain myself. "I have no real friends." I cried out. Very dramatic, I know. "That is why we are hanging out over the summer." she said. "To get to know each other better." I felt safe now and comfortable. 
Ever since then, I know I have made probably the best real friends anyone could ask for. I am now better, but there is still a long way to go. Go Bears!

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